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Bacolod City, Philippines Saturday, August 12, 2017

My loved one has two kids

Dear Tito,

I am 25 years old and I have been in a relationship for two years now with a woman who is 15 years my senior. I met her during a party when a friend of mine introduced us and this led to gettingtoknow each other and she became my girlfriend.

She is legally separated and has 2 children from her former husband. She is a local bank executive in this city and I am currently working as a construction engineer in a local company.

About 2 months ago, we started talking about getting married. The first thing she asked me was about my parents,if they approve our relationship. Thisset me thinking deep, so I decided to talk to my parents about our future plans. To my surprise, I got a very negative feedback from them. Even my siblings were shocked. They just could not understand why I fell in love with an older woman, worse, one separated and has children already.

To be honest, I was deeply hurt by their responses. I left that meeting confused and feeling depressed. When I told my girlfriend about it, she felt very bad.

After a few days, I sensed something was bothering my girlfriend. When I asked her what was going on she told me that my parents went to see her at her office and urged her to stop her relationship with me as they feel that I don't have any future with her. Having no choice and not wanting to hurt my parents she agreed to.

She has opened the idea to me of ending our relationship and focus on our individual lives for the meantime. This really hurt me and I felt mad at my parents. I don't want to lose my girlfriend as I love her so much.

Hurting Boyfriend

Dear Hurting Boyfriend,

Your situation is really heavy to carry. It's not just you or your girlfriend who are affected now, but even your parents are involved.

If this continues, I don't think you will ever win back your girlfriend. You have to talk to your parents and ask them for the reasons why they don't like your relationship with your girlfriend. You have to clarify with them that it is not their life anymore, but it's yours. So whatever decision you make in your life, they don't have control; maybe as counsellors only, but it is still up to you to decide.

I understand why your girlfriend decided to agree with them. Maybe it was out of respect thatshe took heed of their advice but the proper way was that your parents should have asked your permission, and probably talked to her in your presence. But that is done already. You just need to fix what has been broken.

So I suggest thatyou talk again to your parents and also clarify to your girlfriend that you are not supporting their decision.

Praying for you.


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Living Stones student
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Angelikah Gustilo of Living Stones International School topped the Inter-School Peace Quiz held at St. John's Institute on Wednesday.

The quiz, held during the Peace Forum, is a highlight of the SJI International Youth Week celebration which culminates today, the International Youth Day, as designated by the United Nations.

IYD 2017 is focused on the theme “Youth Building Peace”.

The global event is organized by the United Nations to draw attention on specific issues affecting young people.

The week-long activities serve as our share in promoting International Youth Day, especially among our fellow Negrense students and making them aware of the need to be active participants in the peace process, said celebration co-chairs George Solancho and Nicole Villacorta.

Francis Nacionales of Negros Occidental High School and Jane Hortelano of San Agustin Bacolod tied as first runners-up.

Youth environmentalist and peace advocate Dave Albao challenged forum participants from SJI and various schools to aim for interconnectivity as he echoed the mantra that all things are interlinked, particularly in the cause for nature conservation and peace.

The Wednesday forum was capped by the participants' signing of the commitment to serve as instruments of peace.

The youth week celebration at SJI ends today with the Peace Fun Games and the launch of the Grade 12 students' Media and Information Literacy Class, which organized the IYW events, of their Service-Learning program.

The games will be participated in by Muslim students from the Madrasah classrooms of Graciano Lopez Jaena Elementary School, Mabini Elementary School, and Rizal Elementary School.

The games will also be participated by SJI grade school children and the visiting students from Fu Jen Christian University in Taiwan.

The games is a prelude to the S-L activities, said Ma. Venus Lorney Villarosa, adding that they will focus on peace-building and media and information literacy.*

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San Carlos celebration a hit 

The San Carlos City Government Aug. 8 celebration of the 50th Founding Anniversary of the Association of Southeast Asian Nations proved to be a hit among residents and visitors.

San Carlos was identified as one of the landmark cities for the celebration.

The local Department of Education, in coordination with the City Tourism Office and the Office for Human Resource Management, organized a widely-applauded presentation depicting the 10 ASEAN member nations during the motorcade earlier in the day and at the simultaneous lighting of the landmark city lanterns.

Selected teachers from the different districts and students from various schools of the city, together with local government employees, displayed their talents through the performances of traditional ASEAN dances.

As one of the 50 landmark cities of this year's ASEAN celebration hosted by the Philippines, San Carlos City lighted four lanterns placed at significant sites in the city, including two at the City Hall, and one each at the City Auditorium and the People's Park.

City Mayor Gerardo Valmayor Jr. said that San Carlos has been blessed to have been chosen as one of the 50 landmark cities of the ASEAN 2017 celebration.

The city government is grateful for said recognition, he said, adding that his leadership is doing its best to sustain its achievement as he urged the people “to continue to extend support in making San Carlos City a better place for everybody.”

City Information Officer Eddie Flor Silva said each number of the anniversary event was well-received by the spectators.

Among those who attended the commemoration were members of the San Carlos Diocese, the Muslim community and various sectors.

City officials, including the city mayor, Vice-Mayor Renato Gustilo, Sangguniang Panlungsod members lawyer Alexander Ong, Dr. Jose Carlos Villarante, Cristopher Paul Carmona, Victoriana Cabili, Mari-Car Quisumbing, Jonie Uy and the DepEd family, headed by Schools Division Superintendent Dr. Allan Yap, joined in the community dance capping said event.*


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