She wants to adopt; I don't
I am 33 years old and working at a university in our city. I have been married for 10 years now but we have not been blessed with a child. My wife has been thinking of adopting, but I have been opposing it since she suggested it to me. This has been our argument for the last couple of years. In fact, her parents have tried to convince me to agree.
I have been bothered by this situation andI have even talked to my family about it, and they are very supportive of my decision.
I have known my wife to be very submissive and understanding, but this time she is being stubborn and doesn't want to listen to me. In fact our relationship has been affected by this. Recently, we have not been on talking terms. I am very disappointed by her actions as I want her to understand my feelings about it but she continues to defend herself and stands steadfast in her decision to adopt a child.
Dear Disappointed Husband,
I know how it feels to have your own biological children, knowing that it is a product of your love for each other. From your wife's standpoint, it is a sign of her desire to be a mother and to build a family even outside your bloodline.However, the decision should be mutual.
It seems that she has lost hope of having her own baby so she has decided to make it happen by adopting a child even if it is not her own.
You have indeed different understanding about the situation and this has led to your personal relationship being affected.
Still this is not the end of the world for both of you. You need to continue praying and talking about it until you reach an agreement. Let the communication line on this issuebe open and, hopefully, you can reach a compromise.
Always remember everything happens for a reason. Children are gifts from God.
Praying for you.
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