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Bacolod City, Philippines Saturday, January 28, 2017

My boss tricked me

Dear Tito,

I have been trying to write you since 3 months ago but I did not have the right words to say yet, due to the guilt feelings that I am harboring until now.

I am 25 years old and married for the last 5 years. My husband is a factory worker while I work in a very popular resort in Panay. I really enjoy my work even if most of the time I am away from my family. I have one daughter who is now 2 years old. My husband comes home at least once a year. While I am away, my mother takes care of our daughter.

My problem started 6 months ago when my supervisor who is also married started to show some interest in me. I noticed that when he started sending me text messages, called me often and invited me to go out with him, especially when it was our day off. Both of us are in a staff house in the resort. Just like me he also has his own room.

Honestly I had been avoiding him and told him that I am happily married. In fact that is what he also told me when we had the chance to talk. I would be lying if I say he does not attracts me but I tried my best not to mind it because I did not want to hurt my husband.

One day he came up to me and said he is inviting me to his birthday. What surprised me was that he said I was the only one he invited. At first, I was curious why and started to think that he might just be joking. Because it was his special day and being my boss, I accepted the invitation and went to his celebration. To my surprise, indeed I was the only guest in his room, what I also noticed that the table was set up for two only. I felt very awkward and not comfortable because there was nobody else in the room. I just went with the flow of our celebration and wanted to leave right away. He started offering me some drinks which at first I declined but because he insisted, I gave in to his offer.

After that, I felt something different in my body. I started to feel weak and wanted to lie down. That was the last thing that I could remember. When I woke up, I was shocked to see that that my supervisor was sleeping beside me and was totally naked, and so was I. Worst was I felt some pain in my private part. I stood up quickly and went to the bathroom, I realized that he did something to me even without my consent.

Tito, I was so angry and wanted to kill him. But I was also thinking about the welfare of my daughter who was only 2 years old. What he told me when I confronted him that morning was that it was done in mutual consent. I really didn't believe him. I think he did put something in my drink which resulted in me passing out.

What made matters worst was that after one month my period did not arrive on time, when I went to see my doctor, she said I was pregnant. This was indeed a shocking news to me. I feel my marriage is going to be ruined once my husband knows what had happened to me.

Pregnant Wife


Dear Pregnant Wife,

Indeed yours was a shocking experience. Yet you have to face up to it and confess what happened to your husband. It will be a test of faith for both of you. But let us first deal with the situation.

I believe your husband needs to know what happened. You just have to be honest and transparent with him that indeed you violated his trust. Honestly, this is the risk you have to take for being honest with him. Life is full of consequences, so either he will forgive you and move on with your lives, or make a decision that is not favorable to you and your family.

There is no need to justify why it happened, a mistake will always have consequences. Forgiveness is one act in our lives that is very hard to put in action but we are indeed commanded by God to forgive.

The second option is to make a decision to resign from your current job and stay close to your family, especially your husband. Being away from him might put full recovery in a slow motion.

Lastly, you have to assure him that you love him and you didn't have any intention to hurt him.

Praying for you.




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