I don’t feel good
I am 17 years old and am going to be a college freshman student this year. I am the youngest of four – two girls and two boys. My parents and siblings are all achievers. My Dad’s a lawyer while my Mama is a successful business executive.
All my siblings were consistent honor students since their elementary years. Our oldest sister is now a medical technologist, working abroad with a big salary. Next is my older brother, who just graduated cum laude and will be pursuing his Master’s degree in Ateneo. After him, is my other brother, who is a third year Law student as he is a brilliant debater.
I am the only one in our family with no brains. I had to struggle with my studies all through elementary and high school. My mother was always called to my school as I was consistently on academic probation. They kept asking me why I didn’t perform well in school and I didn’t have an answer. I felt pressured all the time to measure up to my siblings but deep down inside, there was deep resentment over why they expected me to be just like them. I became a rebel in my teenage years, always getting into trouble and cutting classes. I just couldn’t cope.
Now, my parents want me to take up medicine which I know I could never finish. What should I do?
Dear Problematic Daughter,
Instead of sulking in resentment over your family’s high expectations of you, why don’t you have a heart to heart talk with your parents and tell them how you feel and what you really want to take up in college. Where do your interests lie – in academics, arts or whatever you want. There is such a wide field for you to choose from.
Be open with them so they will understand your feelings and the problems you are facing. You are luckier than most. Money is not a problem as your parents can afford to send you to the best schools. There are a lot of students who can barely afford to go to college and yet, they strive their best, even choosing to be working students just so they can have a career.
Stop being so resentful and count your blessings. Good luck!