I have a secret

Dear Tita,

My first boyfriend was Nelson. He was my true love and I was madly in love with him. I wanted us to be married and have kids. But Nelson had other dreams. He wanted to work abroad and have an adventure before settling down. I understand why he would prefer to work abroad rather than marrying me and raising a family. Not long after graduation, he left for Canada where his sister was working, and had facilitated his finding a job there. It was very painful for me to see him go, but there was nothing I could do. He promised to keep in touch and asked me to wait for his return.

Time passed and I found a job with a big company here. Nelson kept in touch through calls and letters but after a while, these became few and far between until the time came when he stopped communicating. It took a while for me to realize that I had lost him. I cried for days until I had no more tears. I couldn't believe he could drop me just like that. I focused on my work and did so well that I was promoted to our head office in Manila .

A few weeks later, I met Ric, one of the junior executives working in the area. Ric was so much fun to be with and he showed me the sights of the big city. It wasn't long before we fell in love. I knew I was being reckless but I didn't care. Soon my period didn't come and I took a pregnancy test. When it came out positive, I immediately told Ric. He was shocked and told me that he couldn't marry me as he had a wife and two kids. I was stunned! I felt my world crashing down on me. I went around in a daze while pondering over what to do.

One day, I was still so absorbed with my problem that I didn't notice an open manhole in front of me. I fell into the manhole and some bystanders came to my aid. They could see I was bleeding profusely and took me to the hospital. There the doctor informed me that I had a miscarriage and they performed a D&C on me.

I decided to come home and work here. Recently, a familiar figure appeared in our office. It was Nelson! I was so happy to see him and we talked about old times. It was as though time stood still. We realized we were still so much in love. Nelson wants to marry me but I haven't told him of my bad experience in Manila . Should I tell him my secret?

STILL IN LOVE

Dear Still in Love,

They say, “Love is lovelier, the second time around…” After all this time, you and Nelson found each other again and the feeling is still there. Your problem now is how to tell him your secret. I'm sure after being abroad for many years, he would be more broadminded about these things and would be able to understand.

Why don't you get the whole thing off your chest and tell him. If he really loves you, he would accept the truth with love and compassion. You know him better than anyone. If you feel he can't handle the truth, then you could keep your secret and live with it the rest of your life. The ball is in your court.

Play it the way you see it.

TITA

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