Did she really love me?

Dear Tita,

I am in my early thirties, single and working for a communications company. Two years ago, I met Lydia , a young woman working in an office near my workplace. For the first time after a long while, I felt alive again. I was like a teenager in love. Lydia was very pretty and vivacious. She made me laugh a lot. Also, she showed me that she cared for me and it was very flattering to my ego. I was so happy to be with her and we spent a lot of time together. I showered her with gifts and romantic text messages. Being with her was so much fun, that I looked forward to our next meeting every time we were apart.

One day, I noticed that something was bothering her. I asked her what it was and she told me that she needed P13,000 for her parents, and she didn't have enough in her savings account as she only had P3,000. I immediately called my brother if he could lend me P10,000 that day and he agreed. When I gave the money to Lydia , she was so grateful and promised to pay me back in monthly installments. She was very sweet to me that I vowed to love her forever. A few months later, she again told me she needed an additional amount of P8,000 to finish the repair of her parents' house.

Once again I tried to borrow from my brother but he refused. After I told him I wanted to help my girlfriend, he warned me that I should be careful as she might be only after my money. I refused to believe him and we had a few words. Lydia looked very disappointed when I told her I couldn't help her. After that, she gradually began to change in her attitude towards me. She was no longer as sweet and as loving as she used to be.

Recently, I found out that she was seeing another man and they were often seen out together in restaurants, movies, etc. I confronted Lydia and she admitted everything. I got angry and we had a spat. She got into a fit and told me it was over between us. I was stunned. I didn't think it would come to this. I tried to apologize but she refused to listen. My friends tell me that Lydia was just using me to get money and when I couldn't give her more, she dropped me like a hot potato. I feel so bad at the thought that I was being used. She hasn't paid a single cent of the P10,000 I gave her. What should I do?

DEVASTATED

Dear Devastated,

Let's face it – you've been had. This woman played you for a fool and you were a willing victim. You were so much in love with her that you readily gave her P10,000 without letting her sign an IOU. The sad part is, when you couldn't give her more, she dropped you like a hot potato. Consider yourself lucky. I know of other guys who have been had for much more than P10,000. Too late they realized that they had been victimized by a clever woman. As for getting back your money, you can try by asking her for it. I doubt though that you'll get it back. As the saying goes, “There's one born every minute!”

TITA

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