My husband's boss
is a playboy

Dear Tita,

My husband Chito, is currently working for a company here in Bacolod . His boss, Mr. M, is very good to him and has backed him up in various proposals he made to the company. When Chito asked for a loan, Mr. M facilitated his request which was granted immediately. Chito is very grateful to his boss for all the help he has given to him. Whenever I ask him about his boss, Chito laughs and tells me he is a “chickboy” (ladies' man) and his wife is very jealous and has been known to create a scandal when she caught him with his other women.

A few months ago, Chito told me to prepare a nice dinner at home as the invited Mr. M. I excitedly prepared my favorite recipes for our dinner with Chito's boss. When Mr. M arrived, he had a young woman with him who he introduced as a trainee in the office. I welcomed them to my home and I could see that they enjoyed the meal. Mr. M complimented me on my cooking and said he hoped he could come again. I assured him he was always welcome.

After they left, I asked Chito who the woman was and he laughed and told me she was Mr. M's “latest.” I felt a bit insulted that Mr. M would bring his girlfriend to our home and told my husband so. Chito told me not to make a big fuss over it.

A few months later, on Chito's birthday, I told him I was going to prepare a nice dinner party for his friends. I was very busy cooking the whole day and when the guests arrived, I told them Chito was still in the office but he was on his way. When Chito arrived, he was with Mr. M and another young woman who was introduced as a new trainee.

There was nothing I could do but welcome them to the dinner party. Everyone had a good time and even Mr. M sang during the sing-along. Before he left, he again praised me for the good food and said he was looking forward to coming back. I just smiled.

When the guests had gone, I asked Chito about the woman and he admitted she was Mr. M's new find. I told him I didn't like the idea of his boss taking his “finds” to our house. Chito reminded me that he owes a lot to Mr. M and that he has to please him. I disagree. This has been a subject we keep arguing about. Lately, Chito said Mr. M has been asking when he can come over again for dinner. I am worried Mr. M's wife might find out about his women coming to our house and we might be involved in their trouble. Please advise me what to do.

WORRIED

DEAR WORRIED,

You have to put your foot down and insist that your husband not bring his boss to your house for dinner if he is going to bring a lady friend with him. It is very disrespectful to you and it puts you in a spot if his wife would find out. I know that Chito is trying to be nice to his boss for the favors given him,

but making your house a rendezvouz for him and his girlfriends is very wrong. To avoid any further misunderstanding, I think you better stop giving dinners at your home. It's too bad your husband's boss has no delicadeza.

TITA

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