How can I believe her?

Dear Tita,

I met Syl when she had just parted with her boyfriend Don. I could see she was brokenhearted about the breakup and I felt sorry for her. We became close and she confided everything to me. I soon found myself falling in love with her although I knew she was still hurting inside. I promised her I would do everything to make her happy. It wasn't long before we became sweethearts. My friends thought I was crazy to love her as they knew how close she was to Don. They told me her love for me was just on the rebound but I didn't believe them.

All I knew was that I had won the heart of the woman I really loved. We became inseparable, spending most of our time together. A few months later I had to go to Manila for a 6-week training seminar. I felt bad about leaving Syl but she assured me it was okay. The night before I left, we went out and ended up in a motel.

While I was in Manila , I kept in constant touch with Syl through text messages and calls. She told me how much she missed me and I told her I felt the same. I could hardly wait to come back home and see her again. When my training ended, I came back and she was at the airport to meet me. On our way home, she told me she was worried because she had a pregnancy test when she was delayed and the result was positive – she was pregnant. I was overjoyed at the news and told her we should get married as soon as possible. She looked so relieved and said yes.

But when I told my family about our plans, my sister informed me that I should first find out if it was true that Syl had spent a weekend in Boracay with her ex-boyfriend Don while I was in Manila . Some of our friends saw them there and reported that they were so lovey-dovey together. I was crushed. Doubts came to my mind about Syl and her ex. I began to wonder if the baby she was carrying was really mine.

Or could it be his? I confronted Syl about her Boracay trip with Don. At first she tried to deny but finally she admitted she did go with him. But she quickly assured me that nothing happened between them and that I was the father of the child in her womb.

I am full of doubts and fears. How can I believe her? Please advise me what to do.

DOUBTING BF

Dear Doubting BF,

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. Any man would feel the same. Your girlfriend and Don had a history together. You came into the picture when she was still trying to mend a broken heart. There is a possibility that she might have accepted you on the rebound. You think that the baby might have been sired by Don when they were in Boracay. No one could know for sure except Syl and she insists it is yours. The problem is, you find it hard to believe her. Under these circumstances, you should not get married until all the doubts have been cleared up. You will only be courting disaster in your marriage if you rush into it. There will always be that nagging question, what if ….. ?

If you want to be really sure, you could have a DNA test once the baby is born to erase all the nagging doubts and fears.

TITA

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