'I made a mistake,
a terrible mistake'

Dear Tita,

I am here in Bacolod with my two kids and I'm seven months pregnant. My husband Joey is working in Manila and my problem is - the baby I'm carrying is not his. The problem started when I bumped into my old boyfriend Don, in Manila where I lived with my husband and kids.

Don and I began texting each other and going out on dates together. It was so exciting being with him as I felt young again. He was very passionate and I couldn't resist. When my monthly period didn't arrive, I began to worry. Joey and I have been practicing birth control as we didn't want to have another baby until our youngest was five years old. My fears grew as the weeks went on and so I decided to come home to Bacolod with my kids for a vacation. As soon as I arrived, I consulted a doctor and my heart sank when she told me the result - I was pregnant!

My mother was very angry when I told her about what happened. She never liked Don in the first place and she was so happy I married Joey. I called Don and informed him about my condition. He said he was ready to stand by me and asked me to leave my husband and go with him. I told him I couldn't do that to my husband and kids. He got angry with me and hang up

When I tried to contact him again, I couldn't. A few weeks later, I learned that Don left for Saudi to work there. He didn't even say goodbye. How I regretted what I did to Joey, my wonderful and loving husband. He didn't deserve to be betrayed.

One day Joey called. He was shouting on the phone. Someone from here had informed him that I was pregnant. He accused me of infidelity and demanded to know who the father was. I tried to cover up but he knew I was lying. Finally, I admitted my guilt and told him that if he wanted to leave me, it's all up to him. He became so mad that he called me names and banged the phone on me. After that call Joey never contacted me again and even stopped sending me money which made things very difficult for us. My mother blamed me for everything.

I have cried my eyes out worrying about the future. We can hardly live on my mother's meager pension and my kids are suffering. I plan to have my baby adopted as soon as I give birth. This is the only way we can survive as I have to find work. What should I do?

GUILTY WIFE

Dear Guilty Wife,

You have no one to blame but yourself. How could you betray a good man like your husband? Don't you know that good husbands are hard to find? Now you realize what you had and what you lost. You're lucky Joey isn't going to accuse you of adultery and file a case against you. It's too late crying over spilt milk. The thing to do now is to plan what you are going to do with your life. First, you have to work after you deliver your baby. You say you want to have it adopted. That's your decision and hopefully, you won't live to regret it. Be strong. Pick up the pieces of your life and go on from there.

TITA

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