'I'm 16 and I'm in
love with my teacher'

Dear Tita,

I am a sixteen-year-old student in one of the schools here in Bacolod. I started getting interested in girls when I was fifteen but the first girl I courted didn't like me and she told me so. I felt like I was punched in the stomach. From that time on I stopped trying to court anyone.

This school year when I saw our teacher, Miss D, for the first time, I felt my heart beat faster - she was so nice and so pretty! I just stared and stared at her all throughout the class period. The first time she called my name I could hardly speak. It was so embarrassing not being able to answer her question correctly. My classmates started laughing at me but she told them to stop immediately. I felt grateful for her kindness. Every time she passed me at the corridor, I would greet her and she smiled at me. I lived for her smile everyday. I kept thinking of her - how she talked, how she moved in class and the sweet smell of her cologne whenever she passed by. I knew I found my ideal woman at last. Naturally I kept my feelings hidden from everyone especially my classmates.

One day after classes, I saw Miss D walk towards the school gate and get into a car driven by a man. He said something which made her laugh and I saw how she looked at him. It was then I knew that the man was her boyfriend. I felt terrible. The woman I loved had a boyfriend! That night I couldn't sleep. I kept thinking about my teacher and imagined what it would be like to be loved by her. The next day my Mama told me I looked sick but I just brushed it off saying I was fine. I was able to ask for Miss D's cell number from one of my classmates who was close to her. I felt tempted to send her a text message anonymously telling her how I feel but I didn't have the guts to do it.

Tita, please help me. I need your advice about my problem. It's really bugging me. Is it wrong for me to feel this way about my teacher?

BOY IN LOVE

Dear Boy in Love,

You are not the first student to fall for his teacher and you certainly won't be the last. But you have to realize that you are reaching for the moon. You must keep your feelings to yourself. Don't even think of sending Miss D any anonymous text messages proclaiming your love.

Let your feelings for her inspire you to do better in your studies and you will make her proud of you. Even though you say you are madly in love with her, let it remain a secret in your heart.

Someday you will meet a girl you will fall in love with and your feelings for Miss D will only be a memory. In the meantime, keep yourself occupied with your studies and school activities. You have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy your youth.

TITA

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