'My chatmate is married!'

Dear Tita,

I am a successful career woman in my early thirties and considered to be a "good catch". Because of my strong personality, most men are intimidated by me. When I was in my twenties, I was too busy with my career to be thinking of settling down. And besides, I didn't meet any guy who could come up to my standards for a partner in life. My friends and relatives thought I was too "pihikan (choosy)," but the truth of the matter was - I was not interested in settling down.

One of my favorite pastimes is surfing the internet. Soon I met a guy who became my chatmate. He caught my attention because he was very interesting and intelligent. We began chatting almost every day on the internet. He could discuss anything under the sun: politics, the economy, history, etc. I found out that he was living in Bacolod. I made him think that I was living in another province far away. As we became closer, he told me that his name was Ramon (no last name), a bachelor and he was an executive in a big company in Bacolod. He kept asking for my picture but I was hesitant about this. He sent me his photo and I was glad he was good-looking. I began to ask myself if he was the guy for me and I knew I was falling for him. But still, something seemed to be holding me back.

Finally, I decided to go to his office and find out more about him. I knew where his office was as he had told me. When I got there, I asked the security guard about their boss Ramon. The guard was very chatty and he told me that his boss Ramon was a married man with three kids. When I heard that, I immediately left. I was so disappointed in my chatmate for lying to me about his status.

Ramon has been sending me e-mail messages, asking why I haven't replied. I still haven't told him the reason. Should I?

CAREER WOMAN

Dear Career Woman,

You may or you may not. It's your choice. Personally, I don't think the guy deserves an explanation. He lied about being a bachelor. In my book that's a no-no. He was just trying to lead you on. Drop him, girl. He's not for you.

Some of my readers might not agree and some might think it's fun to chat. It's really up to you. Just make sure you don't fall for him.

TITA

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