'He broke my heart
on Valentine's day'

Dear Tita,

I met Eric (not his real name) at an exhibit and we clicked right away as he was good-looking, intelligent and funny. He kept giving me food from the buffet as I told him I was very hungry. We became good friends and spent a lot of time together. My co-workers liked him and were hoping that we would fall in love. It was not hard to fall in love with Eric.

As we became closer, he talked about his past and how he had fallen for a secretary in the company he worked for. He said he was so smitten with Maggie that he began making plans to marry her. But he got the shock of his life when he found out that Maggie was having a secret affair with her married boss who was giving her money for her needs. Eric could hardly believe it and decided to confront Maggie.

She admitted everything and so he asked her why she led him on. She told him that she did it to cover up her affair with her boss. Eric's world came crashing down on him and he immediately resigned and went to work for another company. It took him sometime before he got over Maggie.

I felt sorry for Eric and I knew I even loved him more than ever. By this time we were inseparable. Eric showed me how much he loved me. Sometimes I asked him if he was truly over his feelings for Maggie and he said he was. I never thought I could be so happy as I was with the man I loved. Last year I was so excited because it would be my first time to celebrate Valentine's Day with the man I loved. I bought a nice gift for Eric and a new dress for myself which I planned to wear on our date.

But all my preparations were in vain as Eric came to see me on Valentine's Day. He looked so depressed and could hardly say anything. When I asked him what was the problem, he told me that he bumped into Maggie at a mall a few days before and they had a long conversation. Maggie informed him that she had broken off with her married boyfriend. After seeing her all over again, Eric realized that he was still in love with her. I was numb with shock and couldn't say a word. He asked for my forgiveness and left. Tita, it's been a year since it happened and now it's Valentine's Day again. I can still feel the pain of losing Eric. How do I get over it? How can I ever trust a man after what happened?

BROKENHEARTED

Dear Brokenhearted,

What Eric did to you on Valentine's Day was cruel and heartless. He didn't deserve your love. What you must do now is to move on. Try to get over your feelings for him. Go out and meet new friends. Have fun. Life is too beautiful to waste on sad memories. In time, the pain will disappear and you might find someone to share your life with. Don't close the doors on this possibility. Remember the saying, "Laugh and the whole world laughs with you. Cry and you cry alone".

TITA

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