'My husband bought Viagra'

Dear Tita,

My husband Max and I have been married for 20 years. I have put up with his philandering all this time as I don't want our children to have a broken home. Max is a very good provider (one of the reasons why I'm still around) and a loving father.

He has always been very cariñoso to me but after I found out about his other women, I got so disgusted that I refused to have sex with him. He tried to woo me with gifts and money but my mind was made up. I was going to be a good wife to him in every way except in bed. This only made him seek his pleasures in other women, usually very much younger than he.

When Max turned 70, he had a stroke and almost died. His doctors warned him to take it easy as he was a very active man before his stroke. Our eldest son had to take care of our business as his father could no longer do so.

For a while, Max was content to lead a quiet life at home with our kids and grandchildren. I tried to convince him to take up gardening but he didn't have any interest in it. I could see he was getting restless and bored. Soon, he began going out again and coming home late. I kept nagging him about his health but he insisted he was fine. He hardly stayed home and was active again. I worried about him but he refused to listen to me.

A few days ago, when I was fixing his clothes I found Viagra in his pocket. I was shocked! It was then I realized that Max was back to his old habits. I immediately called up his nephew who is a doctor and asked him about it. He expressed concern because of Max's heart problem. He told me I should stop my husband from risking his life. I know I should but what can I do? Max has always been a free spirit and he does what he wants no matter what.

WORRIED WIFE

Dear Worried Wife

You have a big problem on your hands. I suggest you ask a doctor to have a frank talk with your husband about the dangers of what he is doing. He should realize he is no longer young and healthy. He must try to adjust to a new lifestyle. I'm sure he wouldn't want to end up disabled - totally dependent on other people for the rest of his life. The trouble is, he still thinks he's sexy! Tell him he has to be realistic. Age has caught up with him. The sooner he accepts that, the better his life will be.

TITA

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