'She still wears his necklace!'

Dear Tita,

I met Shirley at a party last year. She was the most attractive woman in the room and I was immediately captivated. When we were introduced, I could feel my heart pounding. I knew I was in love. I began courting her at once - calling her on the phone, sending text messages, inviting her and her office mates for snacks, etc. When I finally told her that I loved her, she confided to me that she had just gotten over a broken relationship with Gino, her boyfriend for three years.

She caught him dating another girl and right then and there, she broke off with him. It took her a long time to get over the hurt but she was slowly recovering. I promised her I would never betray her like her former boyfriend did. I kept pursuing her, hoping she would learn to love me.

Last September, I got my wish when she admitted that she had fallen in love with me. I was overjoyed! My family and friends noticed how happy I was and they knew that Shirley had accepted me. We became inseparable after that.

One time, while I was kissing her, I asked her about the gold necklace she was wearing. She looked a bit embarrassed and finally told me that it was given to her by her former boyfriend Gino. I was shocked. I asked her why she was still wearing it and she said she was just so used to having it around her neck. She assured me it didn't mean anything and I believed her.

Last Christmas, I gave her a nice expensive gold necklace which made her very happy. She wore it for a while but every now and then, I see that she sometimes wears Gino's necklace. Whenever I comment on it, she keeps saying that it doesn't matter to her and that she just likes to put it on. I don't want to nag her about this as it might cause a rift between us but everytime I see her wear it, I get jealous. It spoils my mood.

How can I convince her not to wear Gino's necklace? Do I have the right? I love her very much and I don't want to do anything that might ruin our relationship. Does her wearing his necklace mean that she still has some feelings for him? Am I being played for a fool? Please help.

TONY

Dear Tony,

Frankly, I find Shirley a bit insensitive and inconsiderate. Why would she still wear her former bf's necklace when she knows it hurts you? With the way she is acting, I am beginning to have some doubts whether she really loves you. It's time you have a heart-to-heart talk with her and tell her what you feel. Make her understand that you love her very much but it hurts you to see her wearing Gino's necklace. If she keeps on doing this, then I'm afraid she might not really be in love with you. When you love someone, you would want to avoid doing things that could hurt him (or her). Sorry Tony, but her behavior shows that how you feel, doesn't matter much to her.

You might be in for a lot of heartache.

TITA

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