'Should I tell my sister-in-law?'

My brother Monching and I have always been very close. He is so well-loved by all because of his kindness and generosity. I was very happy when he married my best friend Dulce who was his girlfriend since their college days. Their marriage was really ideal because they were so sweet to each other and to their three kids, two girls and a boy. Even after 30 years of marriage, Monching still courted Dulce and would often buy her chocolates and flowers. Because of his managerial and communication skills, he was quickly promoted to an executive position. Dulce was the envy of their friends who said she married the best husband a girl could find.

Suddenly, tragedy struck when Monching collapsed in the bathroom while he was taking a shower. He was rushed to the hospital where the doctors said he suffered a severe stroke. That night he died. Dulce was inconsolable and had to be sedated. We couldn't believe that Monching would die so young. He was health conscious and sports minded; he didn't smoke and would only drink on special occasions.

There was no sign that he would go so fast. The burial was very sad and I felt so sorry for Dulce and their three kids. She could hardly speak without breaking down in tears. I could only imagine how empty her life was now without Monching.

A week ago, a woman came to see me at my house. She introduced herself as Linda and what she said gave me the shock of my life! She told me she was Monching's secret paramour and that they had a 4-year-old son. I didn't believe her at first but she showed me photos of Monching with her and the boy.

The photos were taken when their son was still a baby up to the time he celebrated his 4th birthday. Monching was there looking so happy and contented as he carried the boy. She also brought letters and other things which left no doubt in my mind that she was really his secret lover. I found out that they were staying in an apartment that Monching paid for.

She told me that she tried not to get involved with Monching knowing he was happily married, but they both fell in love and it was impossible to resist. He was very loving and thoughtful towards her. She didn't make any demands on him and accepted the fact that he could only see her when he had the time.

But now that Monching was dead, she was worried for their son. Her salary was not enough to pay for all their expenses, especially since the boy was going to school. From the way she looked and talked, I could see that she was attractive and intelligent. She told me she didn't want to hurt Monching's wife, that's why she came to me to ask my help on how her son could be protected.

The next day, I went to Dulce but when I saw her looking so lost and forlorn, I didn't have the heart to tell her about Linda and Monching's son. What should I do? This thing can't remain a secret forever. Please help me.

WORRIED

Dear Worried,

There is no rush to tell Dulce about the situation, especially since she is still in shock over her husband's death. But sooner or later, she will have to know. As an illegitimate child, the boy is entitled to inherit from his father's estate. As soon as Dulce is strong enough, you must break the news gently. Hopefully, the problem could be settled amicably without having to go to court. I know it would be another terrible shock for Dulce, but it is a reality she must face. And accept.

TITA

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